Wednesday, September 2, 2015

Reduce Stress to Improve Fertility

Does Stress impact fertility? This question cannot be answered without consulting with a doctor since everyone body is different. However, studies show that infertility can be related to high levels of stress. Individuals experiencing infertility should discover ways to distress by leaving past traumas out of the mind and by using techniques to reduce anxiety. The problem is that most people experiencing high levels of stress have a difficult time staying in the moment. They are either focusing on the past or worrying about the future. In most situations, they don’t know if they are stressed out because they cannot get pregnant or if they cannot get pregnant due to being stressed?

Sometimes, in a relationship where couples are having fertility problems, the problem may be caused by men who have difficulty getting an erection due to high levels of stress. Therefore, individuals experiencing stress whether attempting to get pregnant or not should engage in stress management. Some ways to reduce stress are exercising, eating a healthy diet, doing meditation, and by having positive self talk. If you are under 35 years of age, you may want to consult with your after trying to get pregnant for a year. However, if you are over 45 and have been trying for more than 6 months, consult with your doctor.  


Monday, July 20, 2015

"Wake Up"

"Then he returned to the disciples and said to them, "Are you still sleeping and resting? Look, the hour has come, and the Son of Man is delivered into the hands of sinners. Rise! Let us go! Here comes my betrayer!"
-Matthew 26:45-46

We are living in a time where our thoughts, minds and judgments have been clouded by the things we see in the media. Social media, in particular, has been created for good purposes and intentions but we must be careful not to be lost or consumed by it. We can find ourselves spending hours upon hours on Facebook, Instagram and even Twitter and becoming desensitized to the reality of things around us. I, myself, am guilty of this. I am not speaking against these social media apps. I just believe that God is calling out to us and that call can be overshadowed by distractions around us.

Now is the time for us to awaken our sleeping spirits to the call that God has placed on our lives. Every one of us is vital to the Kingdom of God and has an important role that only we can do. We must not sleepwalk through our lives and miss our calling. We are called to love, live, give and forgive. God is giving us a wakeup call. Tap into the source and wake up!


Sunday, July 12, 2015

The First Step to Regaining Self-Confidence

Get exposed to a new way of living

In relation to exposure, the chess game has a very interesting lesson. One, if you are moving in the same way every time when playing chess, your opponent has a somewhat advantage over you. He can kind of predict every move you are going to make. This can lead to your opponent defeating you. In life, our habits, doing the same thing over and over, can hinder us from succeeding. We get into a certain routine, and every day we tend to do the same thing. Even if opportunity for growth came your way, because of your habits, you will not change your routine in order to take advantage of the opportunity, because you are so used to doing the same old things day after day. 

Making a decision to get exposed to new adventures can break up the mundane attitude and habitual routine. Exposure adds spice in your life, and helps create new habits as you expand your mind. When you expand your mind, you become a more confident, educated, and powerful.

Have you ever played a game of chess with an opponent that not only made the same moves every time, but made the same moves with little excitement? When playing with such individuals, the game can be so boring and after a while you can become less interested. Besides, playing any game supposed to be fun, or at least challenging.

In our everyday life, most people become depressed and bored because they don't know the purpose of life, and they feel as though life has no meaning. The simple habit of doing the same thing over and over again can be devastating for your mental health. It brings with it depression and anxiety due to seeing life as boring, 

Life is supposed to be exciting and adventurous, not predictable or meaningless. Some people have some great habits, but even those habits can seem less exciting without integrating different activities every now and then.


Wednesday, June 10, 2015


In this fast pace world we live in, it is so easy to get off track spiritually. We get so consumed with working, taking care of the family, husband, wife and kids, planning and attending various events and activities that we easily forget to pray, meditate and spend time with God. Our Sundays are no longer for church and more used for gardening, attending some type of social event or resting to recover mentally and physically from a stressful week. In doing all this, God is there waiting patiently; wanting our undivided attention. It is in these busy times, now more than ever, where we need to call on God the most.

I had been working in a demanding, stressful job that I knew I had to leave for the last five years. Though I was attending church on most Sundays and involved in a ministry, I was not spending the time with God that I knew He wanted. Toward the end of my time at that job, I literally had a mental breakdown. Shortly after the breakdown, I decided to go part-time and my husband and I talked about starting a family. I soon became pregnant and decided to stay home for an extended maternity leave to care for our daughter. During this time, I was also studying for a major national recertification exam for my occupation that I had taken but had not successfully passed. It was in this time where I literally hit a reset button on my relationship with God. I felt that God was shaking things up in my life at that time to get my attention. I knew He wanted me to go into a deeper relationship with Him. I decided to do a spiritual fast because I knew I needed guidance and clarity from Him. During this spiritual fast, I experienced God's presence in a way that I never had before. I also successfully passed my exam. I was relaxed, refreshed and rejuvenated in Christ.

You may be at a point in your life where things are pretty hectic and chaotic and you can feel God pressing on your heart to spend time with Him. That means it is time to hit the reset button in your spiritual walk. It is time to not only recover mentally and physically but also spiritually. Take some time out to meditate, fast, pray and just enjoy time in God's presence. It will be well worth it!

"I will refresh the weary and satisfy the faint." -Jeremiah 31:25


Monday, June 8, 2015

Appearance and Behavior of Confident People

Confident individuals perform differently from individuals who lack confident, because they are not afraid to be who they are. They go through life shinning their light and having the guts to go after what they want. Some believe the efforts of being confident might be a lifelong process. However, this is not always true. We can start now being the confident people we are.

There are definitely individuals who appear to be more confident than others. In reality, they are not more confident than anyone, because we all have the same level of confident deep within us. We just don’t know it’s there. And as a result, some people come off as more openly confident than others. These openly confident people are not afraid to let their light shine. Although they are considerate and respectful to others, they do not dim their light just to fit in, please others, or avoid conflict. They have mastered doing what is best for them. When people look at them, they see how bright their light shines, and others people they come in contact with can feel their vibes which causes self conscious individuals to feel good in their presence.

Confident people usually have positive personality and a delightful smile. They have an aura about them that says they are confident. Even though they don't always agree with the crowd, they don't come off as confrontational, but they don't try to avoid confrontations either. They just listen with understanding for they know who they are and therefore other people's opinions do not bother them. Confident people speak loud but not so loud they are creating a scene or distractions. They are not trying to get attention, because they don't need it. They are happy and satisfied with who they are. This is why they don't try to make others feel bad or put others down. They have no use for that. Confident people generally encourage others to be the best they can be. They are not threatened by others’ success, beauty, or achievements. They run their own race for they know that each person is on his or her own path. Their general motive is to extend love while constantly receiving love in return.


Monday, June 1, 2015


I am free, hallelujah, I am free.
Free to be me; to be all that God sees.
Free to soar like a bird high above the trees.

Free to dance, sing and enjoy all that freedom brings. A release from expectations and a peace into greater manifestations of God's divine love.

Free to live, to truly live like never before.
Free to open once closed doors.

Free to walk in God's grace; to persevere and finish in this race called life where I can go at my own pace.

Free to forgive and let go of past hurt, guilt and shame.
Free to overcome despite the pain; to walk in a new light that shines brighter than the stars, even in the rain.

I am free, hallelujah, I am free.
Free to believe I am what God sees.


Tuesday, May 26, 2015

"Love is Necessary"

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy or boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude or self-seeking. It keeps no record of wrong. It does not delight in evil but rejoices in truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes and always perseveres. Love never fails." We have likely heard this scripture from 1 Corinthians 13 in the Bible read at many weddings and used in the context of a man and woman; husband and wife. However, this definition of love, unconditional love, should be applied to all our relationships and encounters with others. We must love our neighbors, acquaintances, friends, family and even strangers the way God loves us and according to His layout of what love really is.

I was recently hurt by a very close friend. My initial feeling was to cut her off and build a wall around my heart to protect myself from being hurt again by her and anyone else. However, I could feel God pressing on my heart to forgive and love her despite our current situation. I cannot say that it is easy to just turn the other cheek and let things go so easily but as a child of God, I know that I must be obedient to my Father which in turn will ultimately bless me. In forgiving her, letting go of the hurt and loving her as God loves me, I am actually taking control of the situation, turning it over to God and not allowing the situation to control or dictate my feelings. (…"For you are a slave to whatever controls you." 2 Peter 2:19; NLT)

As I think about the way God defines and demonstrates His love. I am humbled to realize that even through my flaws and imperfections God still loves me; so who am I not to demonstrate that same love toward someone else. Love is the key ingredient to knock down barriers of hurt, bitterness, frustration, anger and pain. True love and compassion can lead you to forgive and even pray for those who may have caused you deep pain, whether known or unknown. I seek God daily in prayer to help me in this area of my life and I encourage you to do the same.

"For anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love." 1 John 4:8.

"Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity." Colossians 3:12-14

"My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one's life for one's friends." John 15:12-13


Tuesday, May 12, 2015

Grow, Expand, and Create

Successful people have a high level of self-confidence. They know if they have faith, remain positive, and focus hard enough they can accomplish all of their goals. This is the difference between having self-confidence and lacking it. Individuals that have discovered their self-confidence have gained the power to enjoy their lives and have eliminated limitations and a boring life. People who do not have self-confidence experience a life that brings many unwanted results. They are sometimes uncomfortable socializing, attending functions, and participating in new activities. As a result, they are unable to enjoy life, so they feel unfulfilled, which leaves them feeling resentful of the past and fearful of the future. They eventually began to make excuses and reasons for why they stay the way they are. This lack of self-confidence can cause a person to miss out on the beauty that life presents in every waking moment.

Some people attempt to achieve their goals but give up when obstacles get in their way. Giving up is the quickest way to becoming a non-achiever. Non-achievement brings about negative feelings, because as humans, we are natural creators. If we are not growing, expanding, and creating, we feel miserable. Blaming obstacles for not going after your dreams is another sign of problems with self-confidence.