Wednesday, June 10, 2015


In this fast pace world we live in, it is so easy to get off track spiritually. We get so consumed with working, taking care of the family, husband, wife and kids, planning and attending various events and activities that we easily forget to pray, meditate and spend time with God. Our Sundays are no longer for church and more used for gardening, attending some type of social event or resting to recover mentally and physically from a stressful week. In doing all this, God is there waiting patiently; wanting our undivided attention. It is in these busy times, now more than ever, where we need to call on God the most.

I had been working in a demanding, stressful job that I knew I had to leave for the last five years. Though I was attending church on most Sundays and involved in a ministry, I was not spending the time with God that I knew He wanted. Toward the end of my time at that job, I literally had a mental breakdown. Shortly after the breakdown, I decided to go part-time and my husband and I talked about starting a family. I soon became pregnant and decided to stay home for an extended maternity leave to care for our daughter. During this time, I was also studying for a major national recertification exam for my occupation that I had taken but had not successfully passed. It was in this time where I literally hit a reset button on my relationship with God. I felt that God was shaking things up in my life at that time to get my attention. I knew He wanted me to go into a deeper relationship with Him. I decided to do a spiritual fast because I knew I needed guidance and clarity from Him. During this spiritual fast, I experienced God's presence in a way that I never had before. I also successfully passed my exam. I was relaxed, refreshed and rejuvenated in Christ.

You may be at a point in your life where things are pretty hectic and chaotic and you can feel God pressing on your heart to spend time with Him. That means it is time to hit the reset button in your spiritual walk. It is time to not only recover mentally and physically but also spiritually. Take some time out to meditate, fast, pray and just enjoy time in God's presence. It will be well worth it!

"I will refresh the weary and satisfy the faint." -Jeremiah 31:25

Kyana M. Idi

Monday, June 8, 2015

Appearance and Behavior of Confident People

Confident individuals perform differently from individuals who lack confident, because they are not afraid to be who they are. They go through life shinning their light and having the guts to go after what they want. Some believe the efforts of being confident might be a lifelong process. However, this is not always true. We can start now being the confident people we are.

There are definitely individuals who appear to be more confident than others. In reality, they are not more confident than anyone, because we all have the same level of confident deep within us. We just don’t know it’s there. And as a result, some people come off as more openly confident than others. These openly confident people are not afraid to let their light shine. Although they are considerate and respectful to others, they do not dim their light just to fit in, please others, or avoid conflict. They have mastered doing what is best for them. When people look at them, they see how bright their light shines, and others people they come in contact with can feel their vibes which causes self conscious individuals to feel good in their presence.

Confident people usually have positive personality and a delightful smile. They have an aura about them that says they are confident. Even though they don't always agree with the crowd, they don't come off as confrontational, but they don't try to avoid confrontations either. They just listen with understanding for they know who they are and therefore other people's opinions do not bother them. Confident people speak loud but not so loud they are creating a scene or distractions. They are not trying to get attention, because they don't need it. They are happy and satisfied with who they are. This is why they don't try to make others feel bad or put others down. They have no use for that. Confident people generally encourage others to be the best they can be. They are not threatened by others’ success, beauty, or achievements. They run their own race for they know that each person is on his or her own path. Their general motive is to extend love while constantly receiving love in return.


Monday, June 1, 2015


I am free, hallelujah, I am free.
Free to be me; to be all that God sees.
Free to soar like a bird high above the trees.

Free to dance, sing and enjoy all that freedom brings. A release from expectations and a peace into greater manifestations of God's divine love.

Free to live, to truly live like never before.
Free to open once closed doors.

Free to walk in God's grace; to persevere and finish in this race called life where I can go at my own pace.

Free to forgive and let go of past hurt, guilt and shame.
Free to overcome despite the pain; to walk in a new light that shines brighter than the stars, even in the rain.

I am free, hallelujah, I am free.
Free to believe I am what God sees.

-Kyana M. Idi

Tuesday, May 26, 2015

"Love is Necessary"

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy or boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude or self-seeking. It keeps no record of wrong. It does not delight in evil but rejoices in truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes and always perseveres. Love never fails." We have likely heard this scripture from 1 Corinthians 13 in the Bible read at many weddings and used in the context of a man and woman; husband and wife. However, this definition of love, unconditional love, should be applied to all our relationships and encounters with others. We must love our neighbors, acquaintances, friends, family and even strangers the way God loves us and according to His layout of what love really is.

I was recently hurt by a very close friend. My initial feeling was to cut her off and build a wall around my heart to protect myself from being hurt again by her and anyone else. However, I could feel God pressing on my heart to forgive and love her despite our current situation. I cannot say that it is easy to just turn the other cheek and let things go so easily but as a child of God, I know that I must be obedient to my Father which in turn will ultimately bless me. In forgiving her, letting go of the hurt and loving her as God loves me, I am actually taking control of the situation, turning it over to God and not allowing the situation to control or dictate my feelings. (…"For you are a slave to whatever controls you." 2 Peter 2:19; NLT)

As I think about the way God defines and demonstrates His love. I am humbled to realize that even through my flaws and imperfections God still loves me; so who am I not to demonstrate that same love toward someone else. Love is the key ingredient to knock down barriers of hurt, bitterness, frustration, anger and pain. True love and compassion can lead you to forgive and even pray for those who may have caused you deep pain, whether known or unknown. I seek God daily in prayer to help me in this area of my life and I encourage you to do the same.

"For anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love." 1 John 4:8.

"Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity." Colossians 3:12-14

"My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one's life for one's friends." John 15:12-13

-Kyana M. Idi

Tuesday, May 12, 2015

Grow, Expand, and Create

Successful people have a high level of self-confidence. They know if they have faith, remain positive, and focus hard enough they can accomplish all of their goals. This is the difference between having self-confidence and lacking it. Individuals that have discovered their self-confidence have gained the power to enjoy their lives and have eliminated limitations and a boring life. People who do not have self-confidence experience a life that brings many unwanted results. They are sometimes uncomfortable socializing, attending functions, and participating in new activities. As a result, they are unable to enjoy life, so they feel unfulfilled, which leaves them feeling resentful of the past and fearful of the future. They eventually began to make excuses and reasons for why they stay the way they are. This lack of self-confidence can cause a person to miss out on the beauty that life presents in every waking moment.

Some people attempt to achieve their goals but give up when obstacles get in their way. Giving up is the quickest way to becoming a non-achiever. Non-achievement brings about negative feelings, because as humans, we are natural creators. If we are not growing, expanding, and creating, we feel miserable. Blaming obstacles for not going after your dreams is another sign of problems with self-confidence.


Monday, May 11, 2015

Self-confidence: The main ingredient

Self-confidence is the main ingredient necessary to help carry out individuals’ plans. There are many reasons why individuals are not successful at fulfilling their dreams, but the core reason has to do with their level of confidence. For instance, not believing in yourself is a clear sign of a confidence issue. There are so many talented people, but since they do not believe in themselves, they often do not achieve their goals. They are great at doing specific activities, but since they lack confidence, they do not believe they have what it takes to achieve their goals.  People who lack confidence often receive compliments such as, “You great with children.”

However, confidence-lacking individuals believe people just say nice things, and compliments are accepted as people being nice, but never accepted as the truth. It is easy for these people to except negative criticisms instead of positive ones.

Eventually, they develop a false belief system (believing they are incompetent), and with this false belief system, they tend to develop low self-esteem, which causes them to lack self-confidence.


Thursday, May 7, 2015

Redeveloping Self-Confidence

Children’s level of confidence, which is natural during early childhood, somehow appears to disappear as they grow into adults. Most of the time, individuals’ confidence seems to diminish as they accept societal norms or as they experience disappointments and traumas. Even though people don’t realize it, self-confidence never disappears or diminishes. The confidence is still there inside of all of us. The confidence that people believe has left them is there all along, just may have been forgotten throughout the years. It is there waiting to be activated by and with faith. Confidence will always remain in our most inner souls, deep inside where effort is necessary to bring it out. In other words, we must learn to rediscover the confidence that has always existed on a subconscious level.

You are probably thinking, if everyone has confidence, why do some people feel insecure, nervous, unsure, and unstable when it’s time to take on a new project, go after their dreams, speak in public, socialize at gatherings, or provide presentations. The problem is not that people have an insufficient level of confidence or that they do not have any confidence. The problem is that they have not yet discovered it as an adult.

Rediscovering self-confidence may be difficult for some people due to their way of thinking. Their fear-based thoughts are causing problems to occur in their lives. Most people focus on false realities and illusions that cause them to dislike their life and themselves. This dislike causes them to disconnect with their true self, which causes them to feel angry, fearful, anxious, or depressed. Therefore, the first step to improving your self-confidence is to find out what you like about yourself.


Wednesday, April 29, 2015

Have Confidence Follow Dreams

Self-confidence is one of the most essential requirements to becoming successful, achieving goals, and more importantly, experiencing the enjoyments and simple pleasures of life. At one time or another, individuals have acquired the confidence to accomplish goals that are, as they believe now, out of their physical and mental capabilities. That type of confidence exists in people who do not believe in limitations. For example, most children under the age of ten believe that they can do anything. They also believe they are invincible.

The difference in children’s level of confidence and the level of confidence in adults has to do with individual’s level of faith. Children tend to have more faith, because they don’t have life experiences telling them that they can’t accomplish their dreams. They believe that they can do the very goal they aim to accomplish. Before a baby ever takes his first step, he believes that he can walk. Even though he falls, he doesn't stop believing. He continues to believe he could walk, getting up and falling down, until he actually starts walking. If he stops believing that he can walk, he will lose his desire to do so and therefore stop trying. As a result, the baby continues to have confidence until he actually walks. This type of confidence is what helps people overcome the fears that can destroy their dreams.