Saturday, January 31, 2015

Have a long lasting life and enjoy living well

The most essential part of creating an enriched life is to change the mindset. The mind affects the mood. Therefore, the mindset dictates how you perceive your life and influences how you respond to life circumstances. Changing your mindset may not be easy, but you could “lean in it” by making gradual changes. Start with something as simple as changing your posture to promote a confident attitude and pleasant mood. It does not take much to adjust the way you sit or stand. Changing how you see your environment or changing the environment itself could change your mood. Changing your perception could help increase your energy level as well.

Although it takes more discipline and effort, changing your diet could also enhance your mood. Having a vibrate diet is the key to clarity and emotional intelligence. There are so many diets that claim to change your life. Any healthy diet would work, but the key to getting its benefits is to put it to work. Try the super foods that provide benefits such as a healthy heart, managed weight, a long life, flexibility, reduced stress, and a lower risk of cardiovascular disease. A diet enriched in the nutrients, vitamins, and antioxidants promote long-lasting health benefits. Super foods consisting of raw and whole foods such as fish, vegetables, fruits, grains, beans, olive oil, red wine, and spices sustains the youthful and energetic lifestyle. This mineral rich diet helps to lower blood pressure, get rid of inflammation. Juicing is the easiest way to get in the proper amount of nutrients required daily. However, we cannot forget to add the intake of water to solidify this diet. Water with minerals in it is essential for maximum hydration.

Finally but certainly not least, exercising is essential for our overall health. Therefore, a daily exercise routine is necessary for a healthy body and to manage a sufficient energy level. Pick a certain time to exercise for at least 30 minutes a day and stick with it. If you do the suggestions, you will live and feel better. Live your life!

~Alicia~


Wednesday, December 24, 2014

There are ways to deal with Asperger’s syndrome

Children diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome have social difficulty in relationships. They may have trouble being around other people. They may have difficulty to make friends. They make not gasp social cues or facial expressions. They cannot read what is happening or going on socially. They may also have a hard time reading body language. They interpret things too literally, and are unable to gasp the implication of something. Children diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome may do risky things and not understand how their behavior affects other people. They do not understand the emotional consequences of the affects of their behavior. For example, they may say something to hurt someone’s feelings and not knowing or without intending on that to happen. They may not understand why people are uncomfortable or they often do not understand the context of what people are saying.

Figure out the problem
  •  Assist the child in understand sarcasm and feelings. Example: The child may not understand why or when a person is being rude to him or when he is being rude to someone else.
  •  Have the child write down his problems.


How does your child learn
  • Find out how the child learns best.
  • Give specific instructions.


Facial expressions
  • Teach what they mean.
  • Celebrate the little victories.

Monday, December 22, 2014

Teach Children Self-Control

Teach child to have empathy for others:
Assist him with processing how people feel sad when he hits them (For example, Travis you hurt mom when you pull her hair. Mom feels sad when you do that. Show Travis a picture of a sad face.)

Teach child how to control his anger:
Associate the anger with what happen (For example, Travis is angry because he could not go outside).

Reduce the amount of Television:
Does child what a lot of TV (This can cause anger if he is watching the wrong programs.)

Play with and observe child:
So that he could reveal what is making him angry.

As responsible adults, demonstrate appropriate anger control in front of child:
Do not argue in front of child.

Find out what makes child angry:
Frustration, hungry, pain, and embarrassed

How can parents assist child in managing his anger?
Talk to the child
Get him to tell you why he is angry
Help child process what happened

Monday, December 1, 2014


Follow the Light


Why do you mess with me with me,
Is it because I am chosen?
I’m walking towards the light,
While God is shaping and molding.

Maybe it’s because I love Him.
Staying loyal to Him,
Assures me
You can’t win!

Why does it feel like a gift and a curse?
I guess I know how God feels,
With His creation called Earth.

I accept my calling.
But why does it hurt so much,
When everything around you
Starts falling?

Most of us call that growth,
Can you hear the pain in the words
I just spoke?

Crying inside all the time,
As the natural eye sees the outside
Looking just fine.

Turning the other cheek,
Starts to get old.
God says do it son,
So I do as I’m told.

But you say get even,
And get revenge.
Manipulating my mind,
Just to kill me in the end.

I hear well though,
So I recognize the voices.
The difference between the two,
That brings about different choices

So even though some go left,
I choose to go right.
Everyone in the dark,
Will soon or later come into the light!






Friday, November 28, 2014

Jeopardy Game for Improving Kids Behavior

                                                             

Social skills
1 point
Communication skills
1 point
Follow Adult Directives
1 point
Anger management skills
1 point
Social skills
2 points
Communication skills
2 points
Follow Adult Directives
2 points
Anger management skills
2 points




Social skills
3 points
Communication skills
3 points
Follow Adult Directives
3 points
Anger management skills
3 points
Social skills
4 points
Communication skills
4 points
Follow Adult Directives
4 points
Anger management skills
4 points
Social skills
5 points
Communication skills
5 points
Follow Adult Directives
5 points
Anger management skills
5 points


























Children Questions

Child 1 point question
Social skills- name one social skill
Communication skills: name one communication skill
Following directives: name one word that means following directives
Anger management skills- name one coping skill

Child 2 points question
Social skills: What do social skills mean?
Communication skills: What do communication skills mean?
Following Adults directives: What does follow adult directives mean?
Anger management skills: What does anger management mean?
Children can ask for a hint from their parents.

Child 3 points question
Social skills: Tell me about a time you used poor social interaction skills. What can you do differently the next time? Did you apologize?
Communication skills: Tell me about a time you used inappropriate communication skills when speaking with an adult. What can you do differently the next time? Did you apologize?
Following Adults directives: Tell me about a time you refused to follow directives. What can you do differently the next time? Did you apologize?
Anger management skills: Tell me about a time you made someone feel anger. What can you do differently the next time? Did you apologize?

Child 4 points question                    
Social skills: Why is it good to respect someone personal space?
Communication skills: Why is it important not to yell, curse, or use inappropriate body language when communicating with others?
Following Adults directives: What is a positive consequence for following adult directives?
Anger management skills: What is the one trigger to your anger you must stay aware of?

Child 5 points question
Social skills: When playing with my sibling, I learned to ___________.
Communication skills: If you could change the way one person communicates his or her feelings to you what would it be.
Following Adults directives: How do your parents feel when you follow their directives?

Anger management skills: I need to learn how to ____________when I become angry.

 Adult Questions

Adult 1 point question
Social skills- name three social skills
Communication skills: name three communication skills
Following directives: name two words that means following directives
Anger management skills- name three coping skills

Adult 2 points question
Social skills: What do social skills mean?
Communication skills: What do communication skills mean?
Following directives: What does follow directives mean?
Anger management skills: What does anger management mean?

Adult 3 points question
Social skills: Tell me about a time you used poor social interaction skills. What did you learn from the situation? Would you use what you have learned if the situation happens again?
Communication skills: Tell me about a time you used inappropriate communication skills. What triggered you to behave in that manner? What would you do the next time?
Following directives: Tell me about a time when someone gave you good advice and you chose not to take it and regretted it later. What lesson did you learn? What can you do differently the next time?
Anger management skills: Tell me about a time you made someone feel anger. What can you do differently the next time? Did you apologize?

Adult 4 points question
Social skills: When resolving a conflict where you are upset, is it better to take a break and continue with the discussion later or continue to the end even if it causes an argument?
Communication skills: Why is it important not to yell, curse, or use inappropriate body language when communicating with others?
Following directives: When a person ask you to do a task you do not want to do, should you say okay and angrily complete or express how you feel first and then complete it. Or should you ignore them in a respectful way and not do it at all.
Anger management skills: What is the one trigger to your anger you must stay aware of?

Adult 5 points question
Social skills: name something that is different about two family members that you learn to accept.
Communication skills: If you could change the way two people communicate their feelings to you what would it be.
Following Adults directives: name two techniques you could use to encourage your children to listen.
Anger management skills: I need to learn how to ____________when I become angry. 

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

Children Diagnosed with Bipolar

Bipolar is a biochemical mood disorder. Children diagnosed with bipolar usually cannot handle changes very well. Therefore, parents must them with controlling anger and eliminating melt downs. Parents can start off by changing their children’s diet. They should avoid food high in sugar and dyes. Sugar may cause hyperactive behavior and manic mental state.

Since children diagnosed with bipolar may suffer with depression, they may have a negative self-image. As a result, they may be socially withdrawn, have thoughts of death of dying (intent), and/or maybe sensitive to rejection. They may also have anger outburst.

Children diagnosed with Bipolar may also experience a change in their sleeping patterns, psychosis (disconnect from reality), and delusion. They may become paranoid fearing that someone is out to get them. Children may also experience a decrease need for sleep especially during manic (lot of energy) episodes. They may stay up all night during manic states. They experience changes in their mood that may not be necessarily triggered by something or someone else. They may or may not be triggered.

Children diagnosed with Bipolar believe that they are right and not that they are against someone. Grandiosity and anger maybe confused with Oppositional Defiant Disorder. They may become angry and easily irritated. They can also experience mood swings within a day that can last up to 5 days. In addition with the mood swings, they may start hearing voices, have anxiety, become withdrawn, and inattentive.  The children may look distracted. Parents may have to tell them something over 5 times. Unless the parents raise their voices, the children may not hear them. If the parents yell, the children think their parents are angry with them and as a result, they may have an angry outburst. Hope this information helps. 

Sunday, November 9, 2014

How I Won the Battle

I’m at a point in my life where everything I want and need seems so far away, but in my mind and heart, it’s so easy to achieve. I know I have crossroads to overcome, but I want my fight back. I know I’m ready to go get it, but how do you put the fight back in yourself when sometimes you have given up on it. I have fought for everyone else and things that they believe in, but when it comes to my fight, it seems so hard to believe in. I pray that my love for life and enjoyment of living life has not given up on me, because I will not go out without a fight. So, this day, I declare that I will have victory in my life, mind, and body.  I will win over adversity. I will win over defeat, and I will make the devil my foot stool, in Jesus name.

I’m in this house fighting for myself. I want to have me back. I have thought of all the things that I have achieved by not giving up. I am a powerful woman, and I know that puts fear in some people, but as for me and mines, it has only opened my eyes to see that it’s just the beginning. Therefore, I must begin to understand that it is never over. It’s just time to get started.

I have been given so many blessing to look forward to and given the chance and opportunities to make things better in my life. Now, I have to want it badly enough to fight for it, so I don’t want to fight today and give up tomorrow. I need to continue to grow and strive for the courage to fight everyday forward. That is how I won the battle.


By: Nicole Crawford

Saturday, November 1, 2014

TWO-WAY STREET



Riding into work this morning is always an interesting event. After battling with my kids to stop watching Spongebob and get ready for school so I can drop them off to their early morning programs, I look forward to taking the 25 minute ride to work. During this ride I either choose to listen to a sermon, the Holy Bible app on my phone, or the Steve Harvey morning show to decompress from the morning turn-up with my kids and begin to get focus and mentally ready for work. This particular morning I chose to listen to the Steve Harvey Morning Show, as I was curious about the infamous strawberry letter this morning. After listening to the letter and while hearing Steve’s usual hilarious response, something that he said really struck a chord and caught my attention. Towards the end of his response he stated, “The thing you want the most of is the thing that you are most unwilling to give!”

Later on that day an old friend from high school called me to inquire how I’ve been and how my new job was going. After having a conversation with my old friend from high school, I began thinking about my friend, Sammy Strain from the R&B group, The Ojays. We spent the summer of 2010 hanging out and barbequing a lot as I was new to the neighborhood and he was my first friend when I came to New Jersey.  As I was reminiscing, I remember he once told me that life is all about love and learning how to love everybody regardless of who they are. At the time, this was difficult for me. My experiences up to that point shaped and molded me into an individual that was very guarded and extremely protective of my heart. Dealing with trauma, failures, and disappointments made me into an individual that preferred to be isolated and reclusive. I had a hard time developing and sustaining relationships. It took me a long time to understand that my heart was affected by all of my experiences. It wasn't until I fully understood who God was and how much I needed Him in my life when I began the process of healing my heart.  When I was younger, my mother would take my brother and I to church, but honestly I couldn't stand going. Getting up out of the bed and walking to church and then having to sit there for 2 hours, honestly seemed more like a punishment. I mean the Pastor was so so and I mean so so sleepy boring that my brother and I would fall asleep constantly, but my mother would always wake us up or take us outside to get some air while opening a can of you know what! It's interesting to see how God can take your life 360 degrees full circle. Nowadays, I can't wait to go to church and hear God’s message.

After getting baptized again on October 12 2008, I began a journey that I had no idea that I was headed on. I thought going down in the water meant I instantly became what God wanted me to be. I had no idea that the journey was a direct mission to change the condition of my heart. During my conversation with my friend, I told them how God tends to shape and mold us.  I gave them an example that was giving to me about when someone prays and asks for more patience. I told them that in order to have more patience, you have to have more chaos and confusion in order to develop the skill and the trait of having more patience. What I learned and fully understand now is in order to obtain the blessings God has for us, we must be willing to be tested. Once we pass the test, in the words of my dear brother Titus, RIP, it's the heating and beating man, the shaping and molding that the test provides that allows us to truly be what and how God sees us in His vision. God said love thy neighbor like you love yourself! The hardest thing I ever had to do and I'm sure everyone can attest to, is giving my love to the difficult to love.  Isn't it funny that it's the thing we want the most of though..... Someone loving our difficult behinds!  I’m sure it’s difficult for others to love me just as much as it’s difficult for me to love them. What I’ve been unwilling to give, I’m going to pray that I can begin to give because that’s ultimately what I want. It’s what we all want! I love you all……….Be Blessed!

Wednesday, October 1, 2014

Enjoy Every Moment of Life

Most people in the United States have too much responsibility. Individuals’ workload has become so excessive that they do not have an appropriate work/life balance. They put in a hard days work and go home just to do it all over again the next day. There is more to life than just going to work and coming home, but that’s the type of lifestyle employees have throughout the country.  We know people have to do what they have to do in order to take care of their families, but there is a fine line between working and enjoying life. Most people just work, work, and work some more without nothing to show for it. They complain about how the bills are building up and complain about how money seems to leave their hands faster than it comes in. They get caught up in the rat race where they start chases the money and caring less about themselves. As a result, 9 to 5ers continue carry out other people’s dream and put their dream on hold. They give so much, but the companies want them to give even more. If working all the time without enjoying life is so one-sided, then why do 99%of the people do it? It is almost like society has programmed us to work. People put work first and family and self-care second, and when they make the money, they often are so tired that they cannot enjoy it. Then eventually we start getting our self-worth mix up with our net-worth which is not an effective balance. Workers, there is so much more to life than work, so go out there and live!

~Kyana Idi~


Monday, September 15, 2014

Anger Management for Children

Teach Child to have empathy for others:
Assist him with processing how people feel sad when he hits them (For example, Travis you hurt mom when you pull her hair. Mom feels sad when you do that. Show Travis a picture of a sad face.)

Teach Child how to control his anger:
Associate the anger with what happen (For example, Travis is angry because he could not go outside).



Play with and observe Child:
So that he could reveal what is making him angry.

Demonstrate appropriate anger control in front of Child:
Do not argue in front of Travis.

Find out what makes Child angry:
Frustration, hungry, pain, and embarrassed

How can parents assist Child in managing his anger?
Talk to Travis
Get him to tell you why he is angry

Help Travis process what happened

Reduce the amount of Television:
Does Travis watches a lot of TV (This can cause anger if he is watching the wrong programs.)